sometimes feelings are confusing. you can be in romantic love with more than one person, but considering that humans live in a generally monogamous society, it is usually seen as a bad or shameful thing to romantically love more than one person and makes the person feel like they have to “choose” between one interest or another

assuming that everyone in this situation is monogamous (which seems to be the case or else there would not be a situation) what you should do is talk to her. communication is a very important thing no matter what kind of relationship you have. let her know that she is confusing you but keep in mind that (we’re deducting this from your usage of “torn”) she is probably confused herself. don’t try to force her into a decision, and don’t make her feel like “the bad guy” because no one is “the bad guy” here. everyone has feelings and sometimes they are hard

you should try to find where you stand with her and what future romantic possibilities you two may have. if one or both of you don’t see it working out, and a romantic relationship is all you want with her, perhaps it may be time for both of you to move on

romance is a tricky thing, we don’t really do it here

we suggest talking to him. be honest and lay how you feel about the way he is treating you out on the table. tell him he is being a less than savory human being. sometimes people don’t realize they are being horrible and need a verbal pinch on the shoulder to snap them into noticing how what they’re doing or saying is affecting others

as for not liking him but not wanting to walk away, please realize that you are not his keeper. you have no obligation to keep a relationship with someone you don’t like. if you talk to him and he does not change his ways, from what you’ve said here we think that perhaps the relationship has run its course and it is time to part ways

we’re very sorry it took so long to answer this

we’re also very sorry about your feline friend, we love them a lot here

we hope that in the last 5 days your cat has come back but if it hasn’t, we suggest putting up posters with a picture of your cat or even going to a nearby shelter in case someone picked it up and took it there to be taken care of

we think you should please consider your boyfriend for a moment. is he extremely shy? does he second guess everything he does? would he somehow manage to completely rustle every single jimmy of every roleplayer that has ever existed in every universe with his pathetic attempts at pretending to be a fictional character?

if the answers to those questions are yes (which we know they are, being cosmic gorillas and all), we advise you to stop papping him right this instant. you are cheating.

we would suggest setting aside some time specifically to relax, even 10 minutes a day (if possible) devoted to de-stressing will be helpful

try to do something that is relaxing to you, like a warm bath, reading, drawing, exercising, or even just sitting back and closing your eyes in a comfortable place. whatever it is that calms you the most

we wish you the best of luck with your exams and exam preparations!

we hope it is possible for you to see him relatively soon since you can’t this summer!

we will assume here that the feelings are returned so perhaps you can try some things to keep your bond strong over the distance

if you have access to it already/have a computer that will run it, you can hold skype calls with each other. you could also try watching movies together with livestream or watch things on youtube together using synchtube. and you could even hand write letters to each other (if you have each other’s addresses/have permission from your parents to give out your addresses, if you are younger)

we sincerely hope this helps you out

when your jimmies have been rustled it means you are upset or distressed

we are here to un-rustle your jimmies